As an alternative sexual healer for over 8 years now I have been talking to lots of men and hearing their most intimate concerns about sex and the hang ups they can cause, I try to always advise that good health means good sex but understandably so most of us living in a modern world have no time for healthy living and relaxation let alone to explore our sexual needs that seem to fade away with the years of dedication to career, family and responsibilities of the day to day life, by the end of the day there's not enough energy so how can we cultivate a healthy sex life and still have time to do everything else we have to do especially if you have children it makes it twice as hard to achieve this !
My advice to all is first to take care of your health and nutrition, have plenty exercise (which is something my busy clients never seem to have time for! ) and perhaps indulge in a sensual massage with your partner without the connotation that sex will be inevitable! Learn to have shared intimacy giving and receiving sensual pleasure without having to rush in or end in sex, but engaging in tenderness love and care, the healing only you can give to your partner, or to yourself if you haven't got a partner or a active sexual relation you can engage in self pleasuring, try a slow and relaxed approach and you will see how much more healing you can receive from this self-love practice that energises body, mind and soul!!
Ok so how can we have more energy when we work long hours and seem to have no time to take care of ourselves for, sleep, relaxation, sex, quality time with the family and friends laughing seems to be a second in our lives!!
Certainly the number one stress reductor is being surrounded by our loved ones, that feeling of aliveness when touching, hugging and kissing!
Apart changing your food habits to more healthy plant based diet as opposed to eating lifeless foods like meat, fish and processed food etc, Try to eat more fresh products and less relying on vitamin supplements which in my view aren't really doing what they supposed to, main reason for this is that these vitamins are produced synthetically and the body will not absorb these vitamins as well as if it was coming from 100% natural product. Nowadays there's so much more knowledge about what is healthy or not for us is just a matter of finding the information.
In the ancient Medicine of Ayurveda and Traditional Chinese Medicine for thousands of years have this knowledge that has been dismissed by western medicine and now with the rise of commercial globalisation we have access to produce from everywhere in the world! As you can see it in your local health shop you will certainly find what is now been labelled as super foods and spices that are now on the rise, even in starbucks they have a tumeric latte which proves how popular Ayurvedic traditions are now blending with the modern way of life.
I learned about this amazing thing called Adaptogens,
they basically help your body handle stress, they literally help the body to adapt, adjust and recalibrate itself depending on our emotional and physical surroundings. Adaptogens relieve stress by modulating the release of stress hormones from the adrenal glands. As biological response modifiers (BRMs) adaptogens restore the body’s innate immune function and help the body adapt to different stressors.
My number 1 adaptogenic herb which I personally take every day, is a beautifully tasting tea, Tulsi or Holy Basil which is commonly used to help with anxiety and stress but many of us do not know it's neuro-protector and helps boost your memory and focus among other miraculous benefits you will certainly feel if you start taking this powerful herb.
My number 2 is Ashwagandha a truly magical healer when it is combined with diet and lifestyle, this honored root really does bring freedom from disease, as well as bring youth back to the body, promotes longevity, memory function and expands happiness, Ashwagandha has been shown to improve sexual desire, promote men’s reproductive health and even increase sperm count in men with infertility, also for the prostate health Numerous studies being done by scientists today.
Its taste is not very nice the Indian call it "horse sweat"actually!
I can suggest if you like to take it in powder, then add
a teaspoon to half a glass of coconut milk (from the tin) and add another teaspoon of Maca which is my Number 3 best adaptogen choice, it's quite a nice nutty taste and it will bend well with the Coconut milk and Ashwagandha, I also add a teaspoon of Coconut oil as its very nice taste and it's amazing antioxidant properties are quite soothing.
Maca my number 3 adaptogen choice, very nutritious, and is a great source of several important vitamins and minerals that is a great help to improve low energy and low sex drive for both men and women. Scientists have studied the ability of Maca to increase libido and as a natural remedy for erectile dysfunction in men and for women Maca can improve symptoms of menopause, including hot flashes and disrupted sleep at night.
There's so much more to say about this powerful adaptogen but I will leave it up to you to find more information online about this amazing super medicine I call it!!
Maca can be taken also with Cacao and milk like a beautiful "Macachino" and if you like to add a little Turmeric then its even more heavenly blessing the "Golden Milk" made of 1 teaspoon of Maca, Cacao, and Turmeric add Milk of choice and voila !!
Hope these tips helped in anyway to inspire you to good health and opened new horizons of how stress and bad eating can influence and determine even your relation to your emotions and sexual well being.